Navigating Loss: Coping with Grief During the Christmas Season

"I love you to the moon and back our little winter bear. I know you know how much that is cause you're already there. I kissed you a million times. I tasted the tears I cried. I held you my beautiful granddaughter, and I'll keep your heart in mine." C. Grant

For the 18th day of our Christmas countdown, I gave myself a truly meaningful gift: the opportunity to grieve. On January 4, 2023, Eliza Marie Aucoin earned her angel wings. We held her tightly in our embrace before bidding farewell to our granddaughter. Her feet never touched the ground; however, her presence will forever be etched in our hearts, and we can find peace knowing that we have a guardian angel watching over us.

Experiencing intense emotions when celebrating Christmas or a culturally significant holiday can remind us of the loss we have endured. These emotions can range from sadness to anger and a deep longing to be reunited with our loved ones. It is entirely normal to feel this way, as grief is the consequence of love.

Mindfulness teaches us that grief can be a healing process and that holding onto cherished memories, however brief, is a way to preserve the traditions and people we hold dear. So, it is important to acknowledge and honour our feelings of sadness while continuing to celebrate our traditions or creating new ones. There is no need to feel guilty about enjoying the company of loved ones during these festivities. Additionally, it is crucial to carve out time for self-care and, if necessary, reach out to someone for support or assistance. Remember to be compassionate towards yourself throughout this journey.

Honour the loved ones we hold dear by creating a new Christmas tradition. A few tears and the assistance of a Kleenex were required to place Eliza Marie's ornament on our Christmas tree. As our cherished first grandchild, she is deserving of remembrance and celebration. This Christmas, a candle will be lit in her honour, and she will be included among our heartfelt blessings for those who have departed from our family.

During this festive season, I want to offer my heartfelt condolences to all grieving people. May you find solace in cherished memories and find strength through the companionship of family and friends. My love and warmest wishes go out to you, as I hope you find comfort in the Christmas blessings of hope and faith.